SAME-GENDER ATTRACTION
By Elder
Dallin H. Oaks;
Ensign, Oct. 1995
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Every
Latter-day Saint knows that God has forbidden all sexual relations outside
the bonds of marriage. Most are also aware of the Savior’s teaching that
it is sinful for a man to look upon and lust after a woman (see
Matt. 5:28; D&C
42:23; D&C 63:16).
Attraction between man and woman was instilled by the Creator to ensure
the perpetuation of mortal life and to draw husband and wife together in
the family setting he prescribed for the accomplishment of his purposes,
including the raising of children. In contrast, deviations from God’s
commandments in the use of procreative powers are grave sins. President
Joseph F. Smith taught:
“Sexual union
is lawful in wedlock, and if participated in with right intent is
honorable and sanctifying. But without the bonds of marriage, sexual
indulgence is a debasing sin, abominable in the sight of Deity.” (1)
Some Latter-day Saints face the confusion and pain that result when a man
or a woman engages in sexual behavior with a person of the same sex, or
even when a person has erotic feelings that could lead toward such
behavior. How should Church leaders, parents, and other members of the
Church react when faced with the religious, emotional, and family
challenges that accompany such behavior or feelings? What do we say to a
young person who reports that he or she is attracted toward or has erotic
thoughts or feelings about persons of the same sex? How should we respond
when a person announces that he is a homosexual or she is a lesbian and
that scientific evidence “proves” he or she was “born that way”? How do we
react when persons who do not share our beliefs accuse us of being
intolerant or unmerciful when we insist that erotic feelings toward a
person of the same sex are irregular and that any sexual behavior of that
nature is sinful?
Gospel
Doctrines
Our
attitudes toward these questions are dictated by gospel doctrines we know
to be true.
1. God created
us “male and female” (D&C 20:18;
Moses 2:27; Gen.
1:27). What we call gender was an essential characteristic of our
existence prior to our birth. (2) 2. The purpose of mortal life and the
mission of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is to prepare
the sons and daughters of God for their destiny—to become like our
heavenly parents. 3. Our eternal destiny—exaltation in the celestial
kingdom—is made possible only through the atonement of Jesus Christ
(through which we became and can remain “innocent before God” [D&C
93:38]) and is only available to a man and a woman who have entered
into and been faithful to the covenants of an eternal marriage in a temple
of God (see D&C 131:1–4;
D&C 132). 4. Through the merciful plan of
our Father in Heaven, persons who desire to do what is right but through
no fault of their own are unable to have an eternal marriage in mortal
life will have an opportunity to qualify for eternal life in a period
following mortality, if they keep the commandments of God and are true to
their baptismal and other covenants. (3) 5. In addition to the cleansing
effect of the Atonement, God has given us agency—the power to choose
between good (the path of life) and evil (the path of spiritual death and
destruction [see 2 Ne. 2:27;
Moses 4:3]). Although the conditions of
mortality can limit our freedom (such as by restricting our mobility or
our power to act on certain options), when we have reached the age or
condition of accountability (see Moro. 8:5–12;
D&C 68:27; D&C
101:78) no mortal or spiritual power can deprive us of our agency.
6. To
accomplish one of the purposes of mortal life, it is essential that we be
tested against opposition to see if we will keep the commandments of God
(see 2 Ne. 2:11;
Abr. 3:25–26). To provide that opposition, Satan and his followers
are permitted to tempt us to use our agency and our freedom to choose evil
and to commit sin. 7. Because Satan desires that “all men might be
miserable like unto himself” (2 Ne. 2:27),
his most strenuous efforts are directed at encouraging those choices and
actions that will thwart God’s plan for his children. He seeks to
undermine the principle of individual accountability, to persuade us to
misuse our sacred powers of procreation, to discourage marriage and
childbearing by worthy men and women, and to confuse what it means to be
male or female. 8. In all of this, the devil, who has no body, seeks to
persuade mortals to corrupt their bodies by “choos[ing] eternal death,
according to the will of the flesh … , which giveth the spirit of the
devil power to captivate, to bring [them] down to hell, that he may reign
over [them] in his own kingdom” (2 Ne. 2:29).
9. The First Presidency has declared that “there is a distinction between
[1] immoral thoughts and feelings and [2] participating in either immoral
heterosexual or any homosexual behavior.” (4) Although immoral thoughts
are less serious than immoral behavior, such thoughts also need to be
resisted and repented of because we know that “our thoughts will also
condemn us” (Alma 12:14). Immoral thoughts
(and the less serious feelings that lead to them) can bring about behavior
that is sinful. 10. Because of God’s great love for his children, even the
worst sinners (or almost all of them) will ultimately be rewarded with
assignment to a kingdom of glory. (5) Persons who have lived good lives
and received most of the ordinances of salvation but have failed to
qualify for exaltation through eternal marriage will be saved in a lesser
place in the celestial kingdom where there is no eternal increase (see
D&C 131:1–4). 11. In the midst of the
challenges and choices of mortal life, we are all under the Savior’s
commandment to “love one another” (John 15:12, 17).
As the First Presidency said in a recent message: “We are asked to be
kinder with one another, more gentle and forgiving. We are asked to be
slower to anger and more prompt to help. We are asked to extend the hand
of friendship and resist the hand of retribution. We are called upon to be
true disciples of Christ, to love one another with genuine compassion, for
that is the way Christ loved us.” (6) Kindness, compassion, and love are
powerful instruments in strengthening us to carry heavy burdens imposed
without any fault of our own and to do what we know to be right.
Application of
Doctrines and Responsibilities
These doctrines, commandments, and responsibilities guide us in answering
the questions posed earlier in this article.
Our
doctrines obviously condemn those who engage in so-called “gay
bashing”—physical or verbal attacks on persons thought to be involved in
homosexual or lesbian behavior.
We
should extend compassion to persons who suffer from ill health, including
those who are infected with HIV or who are ill with AIDS (who may or may
not have acquired their condition from sexual relations). We should
encourage such persons to participate in the activities of the Church.
Applying the First Presidency’s distinction to the question of same-sex
relationships, we should distinguish between (1) homosexual (or lesbian)
“thoughts and feelings” (which should be resisted and redirected), and (2)
“homosexual behavior” (which is a serious sin).
We
should note that the words homosexual, lesbian, and gay are
adjectives to describe particular thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. We
should refrain from using these words as nouns to identify particular
conditions or specific persons. Our religious doctrine dictates this
usage. It is wrong to use these words to denote a condition,
because this implies that a person is consigned by birth to a circumstance
in which he or she has no choice in respect to the critically important
matter of sexual behavior.
Feelings are another matter. Some kinds of feelings seem to be inborn.
Others are traceable to mortal experiences. Still other feelings seem to
be acquired from a complex interaction of “nature and nurture.” All of us
have some feelings we did not choose, but the gospel of Jesus Christ
teaches us that we still have the power to resist and reform our feelings
(as needed) and to assure that they do not lead us to entertain
inappropriate thoughts or to engage in sinful behavior.
Different persons have different physical characteristics and different
susceptibilities to the various physical and emotional pressures we may
encounter in our childhood and adult environments. We did not choose these
personal susceptibilities either, but we do choose and will be accountable
for the attitudes, priorities, behavior, and “lifestyle” we engraft upon
them.
Essential to our doctrinal position on these matters is the difference
between our freedom and our agency. Our freedom can be limited by various
conditions of mortality, but God’s gift of agency cannot be limited by
outside forces, because it is the basis for our accountability to him. The
contrast between freedom and agency can be illustrated in the context of a
hypothetical progression from feelings to thoughts to behavior to
addiction. This progression can be seen on a variety of matters, such as
gambling and the use of tobacco and alcohol.
Just as some people have different feelings than others, some people seem
to be unusually susceptible to particular actions, reactions, or
addictions. Perhaps such susceptibilities are inborn or acquired without
personal choice or fault, like the unnamed ailment the Apostle Paul called
“a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should
be exalted above measure” (2 Cor. 12:7).
One person may have feelings that draw him toward gambling, but unlike
those who only dabble, he becomes a compulsive gambler. Another person may
have a taste for tobacco and a susceptibility to its addiction. Still
another may have an unusual attraction to alcohol and the vulnerability to
be readily propelled into alcoholism. Other examples may include a hot
temper, a contentious manner, a covetous attitude, and so on.
In
each case (and in other examples that could be given) the feelings or
other characteristics that increase susceptibility to certain behavior may
have some relationship to inheritance. But the relationship is probably
very complex. The inherited element may be nothing more than an increased
likelihood that an individual will acquire certain feelings if he or she
encounters particular influences during the developmental years. But
regardless of our different susceptibilities or vulnerabilities, which
represent only variations on our mortal freedom (in mortality we are only
“free according to the flesh” [2 Ne. 2:27]),
we remain responsible for the exercise of our agency in the thoughts we
entertain and the behavior we choose. I discussed this contrast in a talk
I gave at Brigham Young University several years ago:
“Most of us are born with [or develop] thorns in the flesh, some more
visible, some more serious than others. We all seem to have
susceptibilities to one disorder or another, but whatever our
susceptibilities, we have the will and the power to control our thoughts
and our actions. This must be so. God has said that he holds us
accountable for what we do and what we think, so our thoughts and actions
must be controllable by our agency. Once we have reached the age or
condition of accountability, the claim ‘I was born that way’ does not
excuse actions or thoughts that fail to conform to the commandments of
God. We need to learn how to live so that a weakness that is mortal will
not prevent us from achieving the goal that is eternal.
“God has promised that he will consecrate our afflictions for our gain
(see 2 Ne. 2:2). The efforts we expend in
overcoming any inherited [or developed] weakness build a spiritual
strength that will serve us throughout eternity. Thus, when Paul prayed
thrice that his ‘thorn in the flesh’ would depart from him, the Lord
replied, ‘My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect
in weakness.’ Obedient, Paul concluded:
“
‘Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the
power of Christ may rest upon me.
“
‘Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities,
in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then
am I strong’ (2 Cor. 12:9–10).
“Whatever our susceptibilities or tendencies [feelings], they cannot
subject us to eternal consequences unless we exercise our free agency to
do or think the things forbidden by the commandments of God. For example,
a susceptibility to alcoholism impairs its victim’s freedom to partake
without addiction, but his free agency allows him to abstain and thus
escape the physical debilitation of alcohol and the spiritual
deterioration of addiction.
“…
Beware the argument that because a person has strong drives toward a
particular act, he has no power of choice and therefore no responsibility
for his actions. This contention runs counter to the most fundamental
premises of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
“Satan would like us to believe that we are not responsible in this life.
That is the result he tried to achieve by his contest in the
pre-existence. A person who insists that he is not responsible for the
exercise of his free agency because he was ‘born that way’ is trying to
ignore the outcome of the War in Heaven. We are responsible, and if
we argue otherwise, our efforts become part of the propaganda effort of
the Adversary.
“Individual responsibility is a law of life. It applies in the law of man
and the law of God. Society holds people responsible to control their
impulses so we can live in a civilized society. God holds his children
responsible to control their impulses in order that they can keep his
commandments and realize their eternal destiny. The law does not excuse
the short-tempered man who surrenders to his impulse to pull a trigger on
his tormentor, or the greedy man who surrenders to his impulse to steal,
or the pedophile who surrenders to his impulse to satisfy his sexual urges
with children. …
“There is much we do not know about the extent of freedom we have in view
of the various thorns in the flesh that afflict us in mortality. But this
much we do know; we all have our free agency and God holds us
accountable for the way we use it in thought and deed. That is
fundamental.” (7)
The Insights
of Science
In
contrast to our doctrinal approach, many persons approach the problems of
same-sex attraction solely from the standpoint of current science. While I
am not qualified as a scientist, with the aid of scientific literature and
with the advice of qualified scientists and practitioners, I will attempt
to refute the claim of some that scientific discoveries demonstrate that
avowed homosexuals and lesbians were “born that way.”
We
live in a time of accelerating scientific discoveries about the human
body. We know that our inheritance explains many of our physical
characteristics. At the same time, we also know that our behavior is
profoundly influenced by psychosocial factors such as parental and sibling
relationships (especially during the formative years) and the culture in
which we live. The debate over whether, or the extent to which, specific
behavior is attributable to “nature” or to “nurture” is centuries old. Its
application to the subject of same-sex feelings and behaviors is only one
manifestation of a highly complex subject on which scientific knowledge is
still in its infancy.
Some scientists deny that behavior is genetically influenced. (8) Others
are advocates of evidence or theories suggesting that “there is
substantial evidence for genetic influence on sexual orientation.” (9)
We
are, of course, aware of evidence that inheritance explains
susceptibilities to certain diseases like some cancers and some other
illnesses like diabetes mellitus. There are also theories and some
evidence that inheritance is a factor in susceptibilities to various
behavior-related disorders like aggression, alcoholism, and obesity. It is
easy to hypothesize that inheritance plays a role in sexual orientation.
However, it is important to remember, as conceded by two advocates of this
approach, that “the concept of substantial heritability should not be
confused with the concept of inevitable heritability. … Most mechanisms
probably involve interactions between constitutional predispositions and
environmental events.” (10)
Wherever they fall along the spectrum between outright rejection and total
acceptance of biological determinism of sexual orientation, most
scientists concede that the current evidence is insufficient and that firm
conclusions must await many additional scientific studies.
A
study of fifty-six pairs of identical male twins in which one twin
classified himself as “gay” reported that 52 percent of the co-twins also
classified themselves as gay. (11) A similar study of female identical
twins yielded approximately the same proportion of co-twins who classified
themselves as gay (thirty-four of seventy-one pairs, 48 percent). (12) If
these studies show some inherited influence on whatever causes a man or
woman to classify himself or herself as homosexual or lesbian, it is clear
that this influence is not determinative. As a prominent scientist
observed, “Even the identical twin of a gay man has a 50 percent or more
chance of being heterosexual—even though he has the exact same genes and
is reared by the same parents.” (13) We should also note that the results
of these studies (and others described below) are based on the subjects’
self-classifications, a shaky foundation for scientific conclusions when
“there is still no universally accepted definition of homosexuality among
clinicians and behavioral scientists—let alone a consensus regarding its
origins.” (14)
In
any emerging area of knowledge, a new source of evidence is most welcome.
In July 1993, Dr. Dean Hamer made worldwide headlines when he announced
that he had found “a statistically significant correlation between the
inheritance of genetic markers [an identifiable strip of DNA] on
chromosomal region Xq28 and sexual orientation in a selected group of …
homosexual men and their relatives over age 18.” In other words, “it
appears that Xq28 contains a gene that contributes to homosexual
orientation in males.” (15) Putting the most positive interpretation on
his discovery, Dr. Hamer’s subsequent book concludes:
“We
can make only educated guesses about the importance of Xq28 in the
population at large. On the high side, the region couldn’t possibly
influence more than 67 percent of gay men, the proportion ‘linked’ to this
region in our highly selected group of gay siblings. On the low side, if
much of homosexuality is caused by environmental factors, or by a large
number of interacting genes, Xq28 could account for as little as a few
percent of the variation in male sexual orientation. The median range,
taken from our linkage data and from the available twin and family
studies, suggests that Xq28 plays some role in about 5 to 30 percent of
gay men. The broad range of these estimates is proof that much more work
remains to be done.” (16)
“Some role in about 5 to 30 percent” of self-classified “gay” men surely
falls far short of justifying the claim that science has shown that
“homosexuality” is “caused by” genetic inheritance. One eminent scientist
identified two of the uncertainties:
“What evidence exists thus far of innate biological traits underlying
homosexuality is flawed. … Confirmation of genetic research purporting to
show that homosexuality is heritable makes clear neither what is inherited
nor how it influences sexual orientation.” (17)
In
their impressive reappraisal of biologic theories of human sexual
orientation, Drs. Byne and Parsons of Columbia University’s Department of
Psychiatry offer these important cautions and suggestions:
“It
is imperative that clinicians and behavioral scientists begin to
appreciate the complexities of sexual orientation and resist the urge to
search for simplistic explanations, either psychosocial or biologic.
“Conspicuously absent from most theorizing on the origins of sexual
orientation is an active role of the individual in constructing his or her
identity. … We propose an interactional model in which genes or hormones
do not specify sexual orientation per se, but instead bias particular
personality traits and thereby influence the manner in which an individual
and his or her environment interact as sexual orientation and other
personality characteristics unfold developmentally.” (18)
This observation, but one of many suggestions from scientists, is
particularly persuasive because it takes account of the vital element of
individual choice that we know to be a true principle of our mortal
condition.
The
Responsibilities of Church Officers and Members
In
their 14 November 1991 letter concerning the importance of the law of
chastity, the First Presidency declared: “Sexual relations are proper only
between husband and wife appropriately expressed within the bonds of
marriage. Any other sexual contact, including fornication, adultery, and
homosexual and lesbian behavior, is sinful.”
Consistent with that direction, Church officers are responsible to call
transgressors to repentance and to remind them of the principle the
prophet Samuel taught the wicked Nephites: “Ye have sought all the days of
your lives for that which ye could not obtain; and ye have sought for
happiness in doing iniquity, which thing is contrary to the nature of that
righteousness which is in our great and Eternal Head” (Hel.
13:38).
Persons cannot continue to engage in serious sin and remain members of the
Church. And discipline can be given for encouraging sin by others. There
is no Church discipline for improper thoughts or feelings (though there is
encouragement to improve them), but there are consequences for behavior.
In the same sermon in which he taught that men should not be “cast out,”
the Savior commanded his servants that “ye shall not suffer any one
knowingly to partake of my flesh and blood unworthily … ; therefore if ye
know that a man is unworthy … ye shall forbid him” (3
Ne. 18:28–29). The Savior also commanded, “But if he repent not he
shall not be numbered among my people, that he may not destroy my people”
(3 Ne. 18:31; see also
Mosiah 26:36; Alma
5:56–61). Consequently, if transgressors do not respond to calls to
repentance, the shepherds of the Church flock must take disciplinary
action in fulfillment of their God-given responsibilities.
At
the same time, we should always distinguish between sinful acts and
inappropriate feelings or potentially dangerous
susceptibilities. We should reach out lovingly to those who are
struggling to resist temptation. The First Presidency did this in their 14
November 1991 letter. After reaffirming the sinful nature of “fornication,
adultery, and homosexual and lesbian behavior,” the Presidency added:
“Individuals and their families desiring help with these matters should
seek counsel from their bishop, branch president, stake or district
president. We encourage Church leaders and members to reach out with love
and understanding to those struggling with these issues. Many will respond
to Christlike love and inspired counsel as they receive an invitation to
come back and apply the atoning and healing power of the Savior. (See
Isa. 53:4–5; Mosiah
4:2–3.)”
Similarly, in a conference address on this same subject, President Gordon
B. Hinckley said: “I desire now to say with emphasis that our concern for
the bitter fruit of sin is coupled with Christlike sympathy for its
victims, innocent or culpable. We advocate the example of the Lord, who
condemned the sin, yet loved the sinner. We should reach out with kindness
and comfort to the afflicted, ministering to their needs and assisting
them with their problems.” (19)
Despite such invitations and assurances, the Church and its members
continue to experience misunderstandings about our positions on these
matters. Last fall in an interview with a television reporter, one of our
Church officials was asked, “What is being done in the Church to try to
stop the atmosphere of hate towards homosexuals?” Nine years ago, during a
television interview on this subject, I was questioned about reports that
the Church taught or implied “that these people are somehow pariahs … and
these people hate themselves and that this is an attitude brought forth by
the Church.”
More significantly, we also receive such questions from faithful members.
A
recent letter is illustrative:
“Another concern we have is the way in which our sons and daughters are
classified as people who practice deviant and lascivious behavior. Perhaps
some do, but most do not. These young men and women want only to survive,
have a spiritual life, and stay close to their families and the Church. It
is especially damaging when these negative references are spoken from the
pulpit. We believe such talks only create more depression and a tremendous
amount of guilt, shame, and lack of self-worth, which they have endured
throughout their entire lives. There is sometimes a real lack of the pure
love of Christ expressed to help them through their ordeals. We will all
appreciate anything you can do to help with the plight of these much
misunderstood children of our Father in Heaven. If some of the General
Authorities could express more sensitivity to this problem, it would
surely help to avoid suicides and schisms that are caused within families.
Many simply cannot tolerate the fact that Church members judge them as
‘evil people,’ and they, therefore, find solace in gay-oriented
lifestyles.” (20)
These communications surely show the need for improvement in our
communications with brothers and sisters who are struggling with
problems—all types of problems. Each member of Christ’s church has a
clear-cut doctrinal responsibility to show forth love and to extend help
and understanding. Sinners, as well as those who are struggling to resist
inappropriate feelings, are not people to be cast out but people to be
loved and helped (see 3 Ne. 18:22–23, 30, 32).
At the same time, Church leaders and members cannot avoid their
responsibility to teach correct principles and righteous behavior (on all
subjects), even if this causes discomfort to some.
Church leaders are sometimes asked whether there is any place in The
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for persons with homosexual or
lesbian susceptibilities or feelings. Of course there is. The degree of
difficulty and the pattern necessary to forgo behavior and to control
thoughts will be different with different individuals, but the message of
hope and the hand of fellowship offered by the Church is the same for all
who strive.
I
tried to describe the crucial distinctions in my answer to the television
reporter who implied that the Church taught that “these people are somehow
pariahs.” I said:
“The person that’s working [to resist] those tendencies ought not to feel
himself to be a pariah. Now, quite a different thing is sexual relations
outside of marriage. A person engaging in that kind of behavior should
well feel guilt. They should well feel themselves estranged from God, who
has given commandments against that kind of behavior. It’s not surprising
to me that they would feel estranged from their church. What surprises me
is that they would feel that the Church can revoke God’s commandments. …
To the woman taken in adultery (which is a pretty good precedent for us),
… [the Savior] was merciful and loving … , but he said, ‘Go thy way and
sin no more.’ He loved the sinner; he condemned the sin. I think the
Church does the same thing, imperfectly perhaps, but that’s what we teach
our members: love the sinner, condemn the sin.” (21)
The
struggles of those who are troubled by same-sex attraction are not unique.
There are many kinds of temptations, sexual and otherwise. The duty to
resist sin applies to all of them.
The
most important help the Church can offer to persons who have surrendered
to sin or to those who are struggling to resist it is to fulfill its
divine mission to teach true doctrine and administer the divine ordinances
of the restored gospel. The gospel applies on the same basis to everyone.
Its central truth is our Savior’s atonement and resurrection, that we
might have immortality and eternal life. To achieve that destiny, an
eternal marriage is the divine and prescribed goal for every child of God,
in this life or in the life to come. Nevertheless, this sacred goal must
come about in the Lord’s way. For example, President Gordon B. Hinckley
has declared that “marriage should not be viewed as a therapeutic step to
solve problems such as homosexual inclinations or practices.” (22)
Through Christ and his church, those who struggle can obtain help. This
help comes through fasting and prayer, through the truths of the gospel,
through church attendance and service, through the counsel of inspired
leaders, and, where necessary, through professional assistance with
problems that require such help. Another important source of help is the
strengthening influence of loving brothers and sisters. All should
understand that persons (and their family members) struggling with the
burden of same-sex attraction are in special need of the love and
encouragement that is a clear responsibility of Church members, who have
signified by covenant their willingness “to bear one another’s burdens” (Mosiah
18:8) “and so fulfil the law of Christ” (Gal.
6:2).
The
first principle of the gospel is faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, who gives
us the light and the strength to overcome the obstacles of mortality and
to use our God-given agency to choose the behavior that will lead us to
our divine destiny. We are promised: “There hath no temptation taken you
but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you
to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also
make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it” (1
Cor. 10:13).
Conclusion
The
differing perspectives of scientific evidence and religious doctrine can
be likened to the difference between studying about an automobile by
observing its operation and disassembling and analyzing its various parts
or by reading the operator’s manual written by the manufacturer. Much can
be learned by observation and analysis, but that method will yield only
partial knowledge of the function and potential of a machine. The best and
most complete knowledge about the operation and potential of a machine
will be revealed by studying the manual written by its manufacturer. The
operator’s manual for our bodies and souls is the scriptures, written by
the God who created us and interpreted by his prophets. These are the best
sources of knowledge about the purpose of life and the behavior and
thoughts we should cultivate in order to live in happiness and to achieve
our divine destiny.
All
who struggle with the challenges of mortality can identify with the lament
in the psalm of Nephi:
“O
wretched man that I am! Yea, my heart sorroweth because of my flesh; my
soul grieveth because of mine iniquities.
“I
am encompassed about, because of the temptations and the sins which do so
easily beset me” (2 Ne. 4:17–18).
To
have the will and strength to resist sin, we must trust in God and pray
for his help. Nephi rejoiced in the Lord, who had supported him and led
him through his afflictions (see 2 Ne. 4:20).
“Why should I yield to sin, because of my flesh?” Nephi asked (2
Ne. 4:27), adding a prayer that the Lord would redeem his soul and
“make me that I may shake at the appearance of sin” (2
Ne. 4:31).
Nephi concludes with words that apply directly to those who seek to find
their way through the difficulties discussed in this article:
“O
Lord, I have trusted in thee, and I will trust in thee forever. I will not
put my trust in the arm of flesh; for I know that cursed is he that
putteth his trust in the arm of flesh. Yea, cursed is he that putteth his
trust in man or maketh flesh his arm.
“Yea, I know that God will give liberally to him that asketh” (2
Ne. 4:34–35).
He
who has commanded us to be perfect has shed his blood to provide us the
opportunity to achieve our divine destiny. His confidence in our ability
to achieve eternal life is manifest in his incredible invitation: “What
manner of men ought ye to be? Verily I say unto you, even as I am” (3
Ne. 27:27).
Notes
1. Gospel
Doctrine, 5th ed. (Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1939), p. 309.
2. Statement
of the First Presidency, 31 Jan. 1912; printed in Improvement Era,
Mar. 1912, p. 417; see also Millennial Star, 24 Aug. 1922, p. 539.
3. Lorenzo
Snow, Millennial Star, 31 Aug. 1899, p. 547; discussed in Dallin H.
Oaks, Pure in Heart (Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1988), pp. 61–62.
4. Letter of
the First Presidency, 14 Nov. 1991.
5. See
D&C 76; discussed in Dallin H. Oaks,
“Apostasy and Restoration,” Ensign, May 1995, pp. 86–87.
6. “An Easter
Greeting from the First Presidency,” Church News, 15 Apr. 1995, p.
1.
7. “Free
Agency and Freedom,” Brigham Young University 1987–88 Devotional and
Fireside Speeches (Provo: BYU Publications, 1988), pp. 46–47; the
edited version printed here is found in Monte S. Nyman and Charles D.
Tate, Jr., eds., The Book of Mormon: Second Nephi, The Doctrinal
Structure (Provo: BYU Religious Studies Center, 1989), pp. 13–15.
8. R. C.
Lewontin and others, Not in Our Genes (New York: Pantheon Books,
1984); R. Hubbard and E. Wald, Exploding the Gene Myth (Boston:
Beacon Press, 1993).
9. R. C.
Friedman and J. Downey, “Neurobiology and Sexual Orientation: Current
Relationships,” Journal of Neuropsychiatry 5 (1993): 149.
10. Ibid.
11. J. M.
Bailey and R. C. Pillard, “A Genetic Study of Male Sexual Orientation,”
Archives of General Psychiatry 48 (1991): 1089–96.
12. J. M.
Bailey, R. C. Pillard, and others, “Heritable Factors Influence Sexual
Orientation in Women,” Archives of General Psychiatry 50 (1993):
217–23.
13. D. Hamer
and P. Copeland, The Science of Desire (New York: Simon & Schuster,
1994), p. 218.
14. W. Byne and
B. Parsons, “Human Sexual Orientation: The Biologic Theories Reappraised,”
Archives of General Psychiatry 50 (1993): 228.
15. Dean Hamer
and others, “A Linkage Between DNA Markers on the X Chromosome and Male
Sexual Orientation,” Science 261(16 July 1993): 321–27.
16. The
Science of Desire, pp. 145–46.
17. W. Byne,
“The Biological Evidence Challenged,” Scientific American, May
1994, pp. 50, 55.
18. Byne and
Parsons, “Human Sexual Orientation,” pp. 236–37.
19. Gordon B.
Hinckley, “Reverence and Morality,” Ensign, May 1987, p. 47.
20. Letter to
Dallin H. Oaks, 3 Sept. 1994.
21. Television
interview with Elder Dallin H. Oaks, 3 Dec. 1986; answer not telecast;
excerpts printed in “Apostle Reaffirms Church’s Position on
Homosexuality,” Church News, 14 Feb. 1987, pp. 10, 12.
22. Gordon B.
Hinckley, “Reverence and Morality,” p. 47.