If there are
any indications of pornography use or inappropriate sexual behavior
proceed to the next step.
Decide on clergy’s role.
Decide
on the level of involvement clergy will have. Because of the moral
issues involved, usually the clergy will be the primary caregiver.
However, clergy may also invite additional caregivers including a
capable family member, a member of the congregation or family friend.
Monitor caregivers’ progress by using the following checklist. If the
clergy is going to be the only caregiver the checklist can be adapted
for personal use.
Meet with
the caregiver.
Teach the
caregiver to help the person to stop using pornography by using the
Guidebook. Give the caregiver a copy of this Guidebook. Assign the
caregiver to read the Guidebook and follow the steps in the section Guide For Caregivers. Establish
a regular meeting time for clergy and the assigned caregiver.
Inform
the person with the pornography problem about the assigned caregiver.
Tell the person that the
caregiver will be assisting clergy. The clergy’s personal involvement
will be on the as needed basis.
Follow-up
with the assigned caregiver by reviewing the following steps:
Step
1: Understanding pornography
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Has
the destructive nature of pornography been taught?
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Has the Understanding the Addiction Pattern
handout been given?
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What is the level of
involvement the user has with pornography?
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What is the level of
responsibility, spirituality and desire for change?
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Are there any
associated concerns like mental illness, that may require professional
help?
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Step 2: Develop a
personal recovery plan
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Has the
user completed the Consequence
Worksheet and reviewed it with the
caregiver?
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Has the user completed the
Stop Using Pornography Worksheet and reviewed it with the caregiver? Eliminated access to all
pornography? Practiced eye and thought control?
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Has the sacred purpose
for sexual intimacy been taught?
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Has the user studied selected materials
from Information About Pornography
table?
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Has the user met with clergy
to complete the steps of repentance?
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Has the user’s family been educated
and strengthened?
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Has the user completed the Controlling Triggers & Temptations
Worksheet and reviewed it with the
caregiver?
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Has involvement in LDS Family Services Support Groups and
other Community Support groups been evaluated?
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Step 3: Provide on-going help to strengthen recovery
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Has the user completed and
reviewed with the caregiver another Stop Using Pornography
Worksheet? |
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Has the user completed and
reviewed with the caregiver another Controlling Triggers &
Temptations Worksheet? |
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Has the user continued to
study materials from Information About Pornography table and
attended support groups? |
Step 4: Dealing with
lack of progress
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Has the user been held
accountable by the caregiver about the lack of progress? |
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Has the user been held
accountable by the clergy about the lack of progress? |
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Have interventions dealing
with lack of progress been discussed with the caregiver and user’s
family? |
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Apply the selected
intervention for lack of progress and return to
Step 3: Provide on-going help to
strengthen recovery. |
